Positive Parenting Solution.......

As parents in today’s world, we have begun to wonder if God has started sending upgraded operating systems in children which we were never trained to handle! How are we supposed to cope with these children? How do we understand their mind set and handle them with care and discipline simultaneously?

1. Tune yourself to the Generation Next +

Gen X, Y and Z is gone.
Unless you get yourself updated with the latest technology, kids’ lingo, upcoming movies, latest actors, actresses, singers, musical bands and market you will not be able to even gain entry into your child’s world. Simple ways – Use Google! and have a smartphone!

2. Play smart

Once you enter his world, you will speak your child’s language and hence,
You can enjoy the advantages of the upgraded OS and you also understand its disadvantages.
Your child will be more receptive to your advice.

3. Self re-boot (Selfie time)

How do you re-boot your child’s OS without re-booting your own?
Be it 5 mins or one hour, it is extremely essential to make time for yourself in the day.
Inform your child and other family members that this particular time of the day you will be spending for your recreation.
Read, sit silent, listen to music, just breathe, run or have a cup of coffee all by yourself. This will help you de-stress from all the issues you may be facing currently. It may or may not give you a solution but you will definitely be in a much better state of mind to manage your own along with someone else’s life.

4. House rules 
 
Divide the housework between all family members depending on each one’s capacity.
Rotate these responsibilities between all regularly; weekly/ monthly.
This does not necessarily mean spending money by going out but could just mean playing a board game together at home, cooking together, playing games, sharing stories, drawing, gardening or just talking to each other.

SMART TIP- If you have a teenage child, involving him/ her in setting the rules will help him/ her feel important and responsible.

5. Get more Talktime

Open, honest and frank discussions of house matters (finances, relationships etc) with your children gives them a good understanding of the family situation and on how to deal with it in future.

6. Yes, you can say ‘No’

When it is necessary to deny something that is harmful or unhealthy for your child, you have every right to do so as a parent. The consequence of denying it will depend a lot on how you say ‘No’.
Understand the need and from where it has risen.
Explain why you think he cannot have it.
If he/she throws a tantrum, be patient, ignore or firmly assert you will not be giving in to it.

7. Do not use the stick, but don’t hesitate to keep one in the hand

There are numerous creative and tactful ways of bringing up a child with discipline. Few among them are; explaining, being assertive and firm, being a friend, feigning anger and scolding when necessary and most importantly being a good role model yourself, but NOT hitting the child. The child may withdraw completely or may become over powering and obstinate in years to follow.

8. Reward and not bribe

Encourage your child for every small thing he or she does. Remember that the effort your child puts in is more important than the result. This reward is a positive re-enforcement and not a bribe.

At the same time, punishing him/her for doing wrong is also important. When choosing your punishment, just be cautious not shatter his/ her self-esteem. Rather, be creative and give a constructive punishment through which the child will learn something new as well.

9. Act by ignoring

Your child may seek your attention by doing the wrong things like throwing tantrums or crying. If you react to these, your child will use it as his/ her wild card everytime. In such cases, act by ignoring. Now, your child knows you are not a weakling. Welcome to smart parenting

10. Be Happy

You are the first role model for your child. You need to be very careful and conscious of whatever you say and do. Moreover, you need to be happy if you want your child to be happy. 


Insight funda...........................

Remember parenting is not just a responsibility but Its a Skillful Job which going to reward you a best life time achievement award ..... just make your self skillful for same...

Insight Counseling Center
Neha Satam Rane (Counsellor, Trainer & Motivational Speaker)
9870742503 / 9022557487 

Practical VS Emotional Choice:

 

Boyfriend cheats on you and you get mad every time?

Practical choice: Leave him.
“but I love him and we have so much history that I want to stay with him”

Emotional choice: Accept he does it and you now have to manage your emotional expectations for a relationship to continue.



Have advice for someone but they don’t want to hear it?

Practical choice: Drop it.
“but this advice is the best thing for them and they should hear it!”

Emotional choice: Manage your expectation that all people have to have your advice. They don’t.



Your boss overworks you and you feel he is rude to you?

Practical advice: Quit.
“but in this economy, I can just stop making money, I have to feed my family.”

Emotional choice: Change your expectation from “my boss is supposed to be nice to me” to “he’s a jerk and I will not let him take control of my emotions”



Insight funda...........................

Choose to stop getting hit by the ball knowing that there may be consequences, or choose to manage your expectations because it’s never about lowering your expectations. It’s about managing them.

Insight Counseling Center
Neha Satam Rane (Counsellor, Trainer & Motivational Speaker)
9870742503 / 9022557487

Physical and Mental Benefits of Yoga

You have probably heard that yoga is good for you. Maybe you have even tried it and discovered that it makes you feel better. A regular practice can offer all kinds of mental and physical health benefits. Some, like improved flexibility, are clearly evident. Others, including mental clarity and stress reduction, may be more subtle but are just as powerful. When put together, all the benefits below contribute to an increased feeling of well-being, which helps explain why so many people find yoga so addictive.

Physical Benefits

Flexibility: Moving and stretching in new ways will help you become more flexible, bringing greater range of motion to tight areas. Over time, you can expect to gain flexibility in your hamstrings, back,shoulders, and hips. As we age, flexibility naturally decreases, which leads to pain and immobility. Yoga can ameliorate this process.

Strength: Many yoga poses require you to support the weight of your own body in new ways, including balancing on one leg or supporting yourself with your arms. Holding poses over the course of several breaths also builds strength.

Muscle toning: As a by-product of getting stronger, you can expect to see increased muscle tone. Yoga helps shape long, lean muscles.

Balance: Improved balance is one of the most important benefits of yoga as you get older. Poses where you stand on one leg and, for more advanced students, inversions, are great ways to build core strength.

Joint Health: People with arthritis often see marked improvement in their pain and mobility with regular gentle yoga practice. People with Carpal Tunnel Syndrome can also benefit from specific types of yoga exercises.

Pain Prevention: Increased flexibility and strength can help prevent the causes of some types of back pain. Many people who have back pain spend a lot of time sitting at a computer or driving a car. That can cause tightness and spinal compression, which you can begin to relaxing with yoga. Yoga also improves your alignment, both in and out of class, which helps prevent many other types of pain.

Better Breathing: Most of us take shallow breaths and don't give much thought to how we breathe. Yoga breathing exercises, called pranayam, focus the attention on the breath and teach us how to take deeper breaths, which benefits the entire body. Certain types of breath can also help clear the nasal passages (helpful for people with allergies) and even calm the central nervous system, which has both physical and mental benefits.

Mental Benefits

Calmness: Yoga practice is intensely physical. Concentrating so intently on what your body is doing has the effect of bringing a calmness to the mind. Yoga also introduces you to meditation techniques, such as watching the breath and how to disengage from your thoughts. These skills can prove to be very valuable in intense situations off the mat, like childbirth, a bout of insomnia, or when having an anxiety attack.

Stress Reduction: Physical activity is good for relieving stress, and this is particularly true of yoga. Because of the concentration required, your daily troubles, both large and small, seem to melt away during the time you are on the mat. This provides a much-needed break from your stress, as well as helping to put your problems into perspective. The emphasis yoga places on being in the moment can also help relieve stress, as you learn not to dwell on past events or anticipate the future. You will leave a yoga class feeling less stressed than when you started. Reducing stress can also make a big difference for people struggling with infertility.

Body Awareness: Doing yoga will give you an increased awareness of your own body. You are often called upon to make small, subtle movements to improve your alignment. Over time, this will increase your level of comfort in your own body. This can lead to improved posture and greater self-confidence.

Insight Funda.....



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Neha Satam Rane (Counsellor, Trainer & Motivational Speaker)
9870742503 / 9022557487

A worried women went to her gynecologist and said:

‘Doctor, I have a serious problem and desperately need your help! My baby is not even 1 year old and I’m pregnant again. I don’t want kids so close together.’

So the doctor said: ‘Ok and what do you want me to do?’

She said: ‘I want you to end my pregnancy, and I’m counting on your help with this.’

The doctor thought for a little, and after some silence he said to the lady: ‘I think I have a better solution for your problem. It’s less dangerous for you too.’

She smiled, thinking that the doctor was going to accept her request.

Then he continued: ‘You see, in order for you not to have to take care of 2 babies at the same time, let’s kill the one in your arms. This way, you could rest some before the other one is born. If we’re going to kill one of them, it doesn’t matter which one it is. There would be no risk for your body if you chose the one in your arms.’

The lady was horrified and said: ‘No doctor! How terrible! It’s a crime to kill a child!’

‘I agree’, the doctor replied. ‘But you seemed to be OK with it, so I thought maybe that was the best solution.’

The doctor smiled, realizing that he had made his point.

He convinced the mom that there is no difference in killing a child that’s already been born and one that’s still in the womb. The crime is the same!

If you agree, please SHARE.

Together we can help save precious lives!

Insight Funda.....
Love says, ‘I sacrifice myself for the good of the other person.’ 

Abortion says, ‘I sacrifice the other person for the good of myself.’

 
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Neha Satam Rane (Counsellor, Trainer & Motivational Speaker)
9870742503 / 9022557487

Very Funny Differences Between Men And Women!! Read.... Enjoy

1. A man will pay 2 Rs. for a 1 Rs. item he wants. A woman will pay 1 Rs. for a 2 Rs. item that she doesn’t want. 

2. A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband. A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife. 

3. A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who can find such a man. 

4. To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot & love him a little. To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot & not try to understand her at all. 

5. Married men live longer than single men – but married men are a lot more willing to die. 

6. Any married man should forget his mistakes – there’s no use in two people remembering the same thing. 

7. Men wake up as good-looking as they went to bed. Women somehow deteriorate during the night. 

8. A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn’t. A man marries a woman expecting that she won’t change & she does.

9. A woman has the last word in any argument. Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.

10. There are 2 times when a man doesn’t understand a woman – before marriage & after marriage. 

11. Most often men start a conversation and women finish it.. 

12. There is no possibility of a woman admitting her mistake,however,the last man who admitted his mistake was the one who created women.. 

13. Women look great in hats whereas men look like ring masters in a circus show.. 

14. If you tell a woman you purchased a new car she will immediately ask you “what’s the color of the car..??..”..Tell the same thing to a man and he will ask you “what sort it is”.. 

15. Seek an explanation from a man on any topic under the sky and he will do that,at the most,in a sentence ..And now ask a woman-”what’s the capital of your country..” you will get the reply in paragraphs..

16. If you are lost in a street and ask a woman to guide you somewhere,she will give you directions via shops..And if you ask a man,he will give you directions via pubs..

Insight Funda.....

Insight Counseling Center
Neha Satam Rane (Counsellor, Trainer & Motivational Speaker)
9870742503 / 9022557487

How to Increase Your Energy Levels Naturally...

Everyday I hear the same complaints from the same people about how tired they are, how stressed they are etc. with no solution in sight! The key is to correct the situation versus standing idle and accepting it.

Forget about the energy drinks or pills. Learn to increase your energy naturally, and have a healthy steady supply to get you through each day. By adjusting your personal eating, sleeping and exercise habits, you can boost your energy the natural way and settle into a self-sustaining rhythm.


Essential Water – Keep your body hydrated throughout the day. The first sign of dehydration is fatigue. Your body can’t function at capacity without that good old H2O. A steady supply of water will naturally keep things flowing–including your energy.

Improve Sleeping Habits – Often a small adjustment of your sleeping habits can already do wonders for your energy levels.

Lying in bed is not sleeping: Don’t go to bed if your not sleepy and end up lying in bed pondering and stressing. If you are drifting off at the computer, while reading, or watching TV, it’s time to get to bed. Your bedtime should and will vary from night to night. Let your body tell you when to sleep as opposed to the following the 8-hour rule.

Rise and Shine: Put an alarm and get up at the same time everyday.

Sleepy at Noon?: Try a power nap of 20 minutes in a quiet place.

Experiment and find out what your optimal sleep levels are.

Yoga, Exercising & Stretching – It sounds counter-intuitive, perhaps, but by expending energy on a regular basis, you will actually give yourself more of it in the end. The key is to set up a fairly regular schedule–about three times a week–and push to the point that you feel refreshed, not exhausted. Don’t overdo it. It may take a couple of weeks to get into the natural rhythm, so have patience and higher energy levels will follow.

Deep breathing exercise – Another great way to re-energize your body is with a quick deep breathing exercise. Sit on a chair with a straight back and breathe deeply while you focus on your breath going in – going out. At the same time use a powerful affirmation to invigorate your mind and body.

Eliminate Energy-Sappers From Your Diet – Have more alkaline-forming foods like fruits and vegetables. Avoid excess sugar and coffee as they lead to lower blood sugar levels–and less energy–after they give you an initial kick. Also one could pack some almonds and nuts for a quick and convenient protein snack.

Insight Funda.....
Boost your Energy and Live fit and healthy life. Raho Ek Kadam Aage.....

Insight Counseling Center
Neha Satam Rane (Counsellor, Trainer & Motivational Speaker)
9870742503 / 9022557487 

Analytical survey for Men and Women.............

Women - Multiple process 
Women’s brains designed to concentrate multiple task at a time .
Women can Watch a TV and Talk over phone and cook the new recipe.

Men - Single Process
Men’s brain designed to concentrate only one work at a time. Men can not watch a TV and talk over the phone at the same time. He stops the TV while Talking. He can either watch TV or talk over the phone or cook.

                                                           

LANGUAGE.   
Women can easily learn many languages. Her brain sets up. But can not find the solutions to problems. Men can not easily learn languages; he can easily solve the problems.
3 year old gal has three times higher vocabulary than 3 year old boy.

                                                      

ANALYTICAL SKILL   
Men’s brain has lot of space for handling the analytical process. So easily he can analyze and find the solution for a process.
He can design (blue print) a map of a building easily.
If a complex map is viewed by women, she can not understand it. She can not understand the details of the map easily.
For her it is dump of lines in a paper.

                                                     

CAR DRIVING.
While driving a car, men’s analytical spaces are used in his brain. He can drive a car fastly. If he see an object at long distance, immediately his brain classifies the object (bus or van or car) direction and speed of the object and driving accordingly. Where as women take a long time to recognize the object direction/ speed. Her single process mind stops the audio in the car (if any), then concentrating only on the driving.

You can often watch, while men driving the car fastly, the women sit next to him will shout, GO SLOW , CARE FULL, AAHHH, OHH GOD....etc..

                                                             

LIE   
Many times, when men lie to women face to face, they get caught easily.
Her super natural brain observes the facial expression 70%, and the body language 20% and the words coming from the mouth 10%. So he is easily caught while lieing.
Men’s brain does not have this.
Women easily lie to men face to face. 
So guys, While lying to your girls, use phone, or letter or close all the lights or cover your/her face with blanket.
Dont lie face to face. 

                                                              

PROBLEM.   
End of day, if men have lot of problems, his brain clearly classifies the problems and puts the problems in individual rooms in the brain and then finds the solution one by one. You can see many guys looking at the sky for a long time. If you disturb him, he gets irritated.
End of Day, if women have lot of problems, her brain can not classify the problems. she wants some one to hear that. After telling everything to a person she goes happily to bed. She does not worry about the problem being solved or not.

                                                     

WANTS   
Men want status, success, solutions, big process etc.... 
Women want relationship, friends, family, care, etc.......

UNHAPPY
If women are unhappy with their relations, they can not concentrate on work.

If men unhappy with their work, they can not concentrate on the relations.

                                                

SPEECH   
Women use indirect languages in speech.
Geeta asked Vijay, vijay do you like to have a cup of coffee?
This means, Geeta wants a cup of coffee.    
In the morning. Darling, do you think, it will be good to have an Omllette for breakfast?

Men use direct language. Geeta, I want to have a cup of coffee, Please stop the car when you see a coffee shop.
In the morning. Darling, Can you please prepare an omllette for breakfast?
Always men and women think differently!

                                                                 

HANDLING EMOTION
Women talk a lot without thinking.
Men act a lot without thinking.
That's why many of prisoners are men all over the world.

Insight Funda.....                                                          

Men and Women are wheel of one cycle. if any one of it puncture cycle will not start. As they are in their nature accept them unconditionally. Because with out one other is incomplete but together they are full package dhamaka. 

Insight Counseling Center 
Neha Satam Rane (Counsellor, Trainer & Motivational Speaker)
9870742503 / 9022557487

LIFE is to enjoy

Old man has 8 hair on his head.
He went to Barber shop.
Barber in anger asked:
shall i cut or count ?
Old man smiled and said:
"Colour it!" 
LIFE is to enjoy with whatever you have with you, keep smiling
If you feel STRESSED, Give yourself A Break.

Enjoy Some.....
Ice cream
Chocolates
Candy
Cake.....etc.....

Why?
B'Coz
STRESSED ka Ulta Spelling DESSERTS hota hai..

Alphabetic advice for you:

A B C
Avoid Boring Company..
D E F
Don't Entertain Fools..
G H I
Go for High Ideas .
J K L M
Just Keep a friend like ME..
N O P
Never Overlook the Poor & suffering..
Q R S
Quit Reacting to Silly tales..
T U V
Tune Ur self for ur Victory..
W X Y Z
We Xpect You to Zoom ahead in life
 
Insight Funda..........
Juice pivanu caram rambanu majjani life.... just say All is well...............

 

Insight Counseling Center 
Neha Satam Rane (Counsellor, Trainer & Motivational Speaker)
9870742503 / 9022557487

Worth Reading

I had spent an hour in the bank with my Uncle, as he had to transfer some money.  I couldn't resist myself asked...
''Uncle, why don't we activate your internet banking?''

''Why would I do that?''  He asked...

''Well, then you wont have to spend an hour here for things like transfer.

You can even do your shopping online. Everything will be so easy!''

I was so excited about initiating him into the world of Net banking.

He asked ''If I do that, I wont have to step out of the house?

''Yes, yes''! I said. I told him how even grocery can be delivered at door now and how amazon delivers everything!

His answer left me tongue-tied.

He said ''Since I entered this bank today, I have met four of my friends, I have chatted a while with the staff who know me very well by now.

You know I m alone...
this is the company that I need. I like to get ready and come to the bank. I have enough time, it is the physical touch that I crave.

Two years back I got sick, The store owner  from whom I buy fruits, came to see me and sat by my bedside and cried.

My wife fell down few days back while on her morning walk. My local grocer saw her and immediately got his car to rush her home as he knows where I live.

Would I have that 'human' touch if everything became online?

Why would I want everything delivered to me and force me to interact with just my computer?

I like to know the person that I'm dealing with and not just the 'seller'. It creates bonds. Relationships.

Does Amazon deliver all this as well?'''

Insight Funda..........
Technology isn't life .....  Spend time with people ..... Not with devices...
 

Insight Counseling Center 
Neha Satam Rane (Counsellor, Trainer & Motivational Speaker)
9870742503 / 9022557487

 

Stress..................

Stress is most familiar word for all of you. this stress become one of the common factor of each one of us life.Stress has been linked to up to 75% of disease, but that doesn’t mean all stress is negative or bad for you. In fact, a certain amount of stress helps motivate you and keeps you on your toes. It’s when stress reaches high levels, or is persistent that it becomes dangerous, and this is why it’s so important to learn how to deal with it effectively.

Is there a difference between stress, anxiety and tension or they are same?
Stress, anxiety and tension are terms often used to describe the same thing, but they’re actually different.

Anxiety refers to a state of being anxious about danger and being overly concerned about the future. Anxiety is not usually linked to a specific person, situation or experience – it’s a vague, undefined, tense feeling of dread which is difficult to control.

Stress refers to an effort or demand on a person’s physical or mental energy. Stress produces the same feelings as anxiety, but is usually linked to a specific person, situation or experience that one fears.

Tension, on the other hand, refers to mental strain or excitement, a strained state or relationship. If the symptoms are experienced acutely, it’s referred to as a panic attack.

What all these definitions have in common is that individuals experience excessive uneasiness.

How to de-stress

Stress becomes detrimental when you start feeling as though you have no control over the situation. A healthy person isn’t someone who’s free of problems, but rather someone who’s able to deal with them. If you find yourself faced with a task that seems impossible, try breaking it up into manageable stages and then tackle each one individually. Take help of closed person. Open up and discuss.

 Change approach towards Problem

If you define a problem as overwhelming, it’ll appear impossible to solve – also, if you think about a problem on your own, you only have one point of view. A friend, colleague or family member can help give you a different perspective and potential solution to the problem.
  
Insight Funda............

"Bend and you will be whole.
Curl and you will be straight.
Keep empty and you will be filled.
Grow old and you will be renewed.
Just learn to ride on wave and you will be achiever"

Insight Counseling Center
Neha Satam Rane (Counsellor, Trainer & Motivational Speaker)
9870742503 / 9022557487

Fear Vs Anxiety....................

Fear is an emotional state triggered by real, objective danger. When there is an actual threat staring you in the face, fear activates the release of chemicals into your body to help you survive. This is otherwise known as the famous fight, flight or freeze response.

As humans have evolved, we’ve fine-tuned our capacity to think critically about the future and also anticipate threats. This heightened awareness of things that “may go wrong” is an emotional state called anxiety. Unfortunately, anxiety can produce a similar biological response to fear. Although short bursts of this state can help us survive, persistent and chronic anxiety can cause emotional and physical damage.

Insight Funda.....

Just be relax and have only positive approach towards life. Kick out  pain of Anxiety  monster with  Vitamin B+ Pills.

Insight Counseling Center
Neha Satam Rane (Counsellor, Trainer & Motivational Speaker)
9870742503 / 9022557487

Jealousy Vs Possessiveness

Jealousy vs Possessiveness - which is more destructive?

Jealousy and Possessiveness are two of the most amazing psychological forces that human beings possess. They can be extremely motivating and at the same time extremely destructive to the mind. They both originate from love.

Jealousy is the feeling that you have when you see in others what you do not have or have in less quantity.  "Jealousy " a sign of Insecurity, Fear and Weakness.

Jealous can mean a lot of things. You can be jealous of another success, position, professions, girlfriends, wives etc....

I'm possessive.

This simply means I'm protective, loyal, and committed to what I consider to be mine.  

Possessiveness is your feeling/desire to keep with you what you already possess. 

In jealousy you like to possess what others have while in possessiveness you want to share with others what you have. 

Possessiveness comes from the love for a "beloved". This can be a friend, family member or lover.

In the initial stages when you are developing love it gives the beloved a subconscious message - "you are mine".

But once love reaches a "comfort zone", the same possessiveness gives rise to "suffocation". It can make the beloved run away from the relationship.

Jealousy on the other hand is related to self-love.
When you are low on self-love - there is high comparison with others.
This gives rise to a lot of restlessness that comes out as jealousy.

When you are high on self-love - you stop comparing. You are comfortable with your own self. The restlessness decreases and so does the jealousy.

Some times Jealousy and possessiveness go hand in hand.

Insight Funda..........

Don't ever let your Possessiveness, Insecurities, and jealousy dominate you, for it could be the reason to lose the person whom you love the most.

Jealousy & Possessiveness Kill Love.

Possessiveness and Jealousy are destructive when love decreases.

Give as much love as u want to received 

Insight Counseling Center

Neha Satam Rane (Counsellor, Trainer & Motivational Speaker)
9870742503

The “3 Fs” of Effective Parenting

Firm:  Consequences should be clearly stated and then adhered to when the inappropriate behavior occurs. 

Fair:  The punishment should fit the crime. also in the case of recurring behavior consequences should be stated in advance so the child knows what to expect. harsh punishment is not necessary. using a simple Time out can be effective when it is used consistently every time behavior occurs. Also use of reward for a period of time like part of a day or a whole day when no Time outs or maybe only one Time Out is received.

Friendly:  Use a friendly but firm communication style when letting a children know they have behaved inappropriately and let them know they will receive the "agreed upon" consequence. Encourage them to try to remember what they should do instead to avoid future consequences. Work at "Catching them being good" and praise them for appropriate behavior.

Insight Funda.........

Used this "Fs" funda's as a your 3 magical keys for been world's best Mammy And Pappa.

Insight Counseling Center

Neha Satam Rane (Counsellor, Trainer & Motivational Speaker)
9870742503 / 9022557487